The power to’s life changing




Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.

Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”

Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)


Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.


Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 




Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”




“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”




Encouraged or Discouraged? 



Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 


When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 


As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 


“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 


I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 


Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 


So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

1st Adulthood Vs 2nd Adulthood

I recently read a book titled ‘Half Time’ by Bob Buford and in it was an excerpt of a speech by John Gardner...


“Meaning is not something you stumble across like an answer to a riddle or a prize in a treasure hunt.

Meaning is something you build into your life – out of your past – out of your affections, loyalties, experiences, your talents and understanding, The things you believe in and out of the people you love …

The ingredients are there. You are the only one who can put them together into that unique pattern that will be your life.”


You know, I love that idea! “The ingredients are there – I am the only one who can put them together into that unique pattern - that is my life.” Now if that doesn't get ya thinking!! So what is my unique pattern that I have woven for my life in the past 58 years (58th birthday in Jan)


I’ve got some “crazy” in my life patterns, like:   

- Driving my dad’s dump truck – on the road when I was 8 years old (and yes I got stopped by the cops)

- When I was 10 yrs old I had to give up my motorcycle - my parents found out I was doing 100 miles per hour

-  Piloting and crashing a Cessna 172 airplane

-  Racing our 800 horse power Cougar Flat bottom drag boat – and getting a little air born at 120+mph

-  Barefoot water skiing – and breaking my femur


But I have been able to be involved in some pretty good things also:

- Building a 38 Chev Coupe and driving it to grad

- Getting married to Marlene

- A father to Jared and now his wife Tianna, PLUS soon to be a PaPa

- Missions Trips to Mexico, Guatemala , Africa, Thailand , Malaysia, Cambodia, France, Portugal, & Ireland

- Sponsoring water wells in Tanzania, Ghana, and Benin

- Supporting children in Thailand

- Helping thousands of clients over the past 34 years with their move-providing a World Class Real Estate Experience and becoming their "Realtors For Life"


Ok – so that's a snapshot of my life.  Some of the things I am happy with and

others – well??  As I  look back at my first adulthood – (say the past 30 years) some of the things that were meaningful to me then, are not meaningful anymore. But here is the cool part: I  can change my idea of what is meaningful. So, let’s go back to the speech- “...out of my past – out of my affections, loyalties, experiences, my

talents and understanding, things I believe in and people I love”  -what meaningful patterns am I going to weave into my 2nd Adulthood (say the next 30 years)? Now that is an exciting thought –What a great question – and I look forward to answering that in the years to come. How about you & the patterns that you have woven? Has there been meaning?


Your friends in the business,

Larry & Marlene