The power to’s life changing




Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.

Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”

Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)


Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.


Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 




Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”




“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”




Encouraged or Discouraged? 



Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 


When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 


As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 


“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 


I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 


Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 


So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

Are You in Neutral?

Every so often I get stuck in neutral and start coasting along. Then over time I notice something falling off.

It could be the excitement or quality of relationships (closeness to Marlene, Jared & Tianna, and friends). It could be health-getting a little soft-or just not feeling as strong as I used to. And it could be in my joy (I really enjoy my work and do not think I will ever want to retire). But when the 12 and 16 hour days start to take their toll, joy fades away.

Then all of the sudden, I realize what is happening and I need to stop, take a deep breath and ask myself a couple of key questions:

1) Which areas of my life do I feel I am stuck in neutral?

2) What am I putting my time and life efforts into? Are they the right things that I should be investing in at this season in my life?

I’m not just talking business.

I’m talking people: marriage, kids, friendships, and the people I am coaching and mentoring.

Am I stuck in neutral when it comes to my physical, mental, spiritual life? What about finances: savings vs spending and giving to the needs all around, verses “It’s all about me?”

I’m also talking about personal energy. Sometimes it just seems that I have spent all my energy and have nothing left at the end of the day/week/month.

I can actually get stuck in neutral and just take things for granted, rather than celebrating the good things in life, and all that God has blessed me with.

So, if you are tracking with me, are there areas that you are stuck in neutral and what are you going to do about it?


Your friends in the business,

Larry & Marlene


PS I think I just gave myself a headache just writing down all areas that need work. I’m going to choose 3 and work on fixing them first. as my Grandpa said, “Fight the good fight. Run the race. Keep the faith.”