The power to’s life changing




Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.

Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”

Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)


Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.


Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 




Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”




“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”




Encouraged or Discouraged? 



Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 


When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 


As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 


“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 


I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 


Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 


So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

Give Yourself Permission

This December was a first for Marlene and I—something we had been thinking about for years, but always put it on the back burner.  The dream was to give ourselves permission to totally disengage for a few weeks—rent a condo in Mexico and just live there.  We had done the all-inclusive Mexican vacation before, yet we wanted to experience what it would be like to do a Mexican getaway where we would do our own thing.  We would cook our own meals, jump into our own car and go to that small surfing town we always want to go and check out that fishing village, hit this beach one day and another beach the next day. 


This was going to be a getaway were I wasn't going to be taking a lot of work with me. A trip where I was not going to justify my time away by spending a certain number of hours per day on work, writing or thinking about actually disengage.


Here is what happened.  In the past we had an “interest” to do this, yet this year rather than just being interested, we committed to do it.  Our motivation came from some of our clients.  We had seen a number of our friends and clients, our age, deal with health issues.  Some battles were won, and some were lost, which got us thinking—why wait?  At first, I had a 1/2 dozen reasons...


...wait until I am older

...wait until I am retired

...wait until business slows down

...wait until business picks up

...what if this…

...what if that...


In the end, we gave ourselves permission to start crossing off a few more things on our list and do them before we physically may not be able to or even want to do them any more—and then live with regret.


We had a great time—lots of sun, fun, food, and exploring.


Feeling blessed and thankful!

Your friends in the business, 


Larry and Marlene


PS—Here is my question to you, right now do you have a dream that you have not given yourself permission to do?  What have you been holding back on?  Once you give yourself permission to go for it, then you will figure out how to make it reality.