The power to’s life changing




Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.

Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”

Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)


Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.


Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 




Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”




“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”




Encouraged or Discouraged? 



Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 


When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 


As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 


“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 


I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 


Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 


So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

Happily Ever After...Is a Decision!

Recently a client asked this question in a large gathering: “Do you have a detailed plan to ensure success, to flourish and grow your marriage? Or is there apathy?


Okay, good question, detailed plan for our marriage. Within moments my thoughts took me 25 years back-when we hired a business coach. The drill then (and to this day) was: it’s all about the vision and a plan to get there. You have probably heard it before “Fail to plan-Plan to fail”.


Marlene’s and my “plan” so many years ago was we will get married when we can comfortably afford a mortgage (I heard so many marriages having issues due to financial stress). So we dated 4.5 years, saved every penny, bought a house, got married and moved in.


Then the plan was that we wouldn’t have kids right away, lets have some fun together as a

married couple. We combined that plan with a goal of paying down the mortgage to a certain amount, where there would be no pressure with just one income, and 6 years later

Jared was born.


Over the years we came across a book and another plan called “Happy Camper Dating”. The plan was to have a specific date night after you get married. Here is how it went: I would plan the entire date night-go out to eat wherever I wanted to go, or do the stuff that I wanted to do (for example: go biking or motorcycling, or go to an action/thriller movie) and Marlene would come along as the “happy camper” and enjoy time with me, all fun, no complaining on my choices.


Then the next date night it was her turn. She would say, “Be home by 6:30pm, dress nice, we are taking the car not the truck. I’ll give you directions, get on the freeway. I made

reservations.” I had no clue where we were going. All fun! And no banter on her choices.


When Jared was living at home we would make sure we had our family supper together, 7 days a week. Chat time-TV and phones turned off-and talk about everything under the sun (besides business). Even now that Jared is married, we have continued this same supper plan.


With both of us in real estate, it was so easy to work 7 days a week. I physically burnt out a few times in the 1980s and learnt my lesson early in life ( Thou Shalt Work 6 Days, NOT 7). So we made another plan decision, to keep one day for family and faith.


We have a few more plans set in motion, and a few more to figure out. Here is our next big plan: because we are going to be grandparents soon, we are putting our heads together to try and figure out how we are going to be the BEST grandparents ever!! Happily Ever After, That’s the plan...


Your friends in the business,

Larry & Marlene