The power to Imagine...it’s life changing

 

 

 

Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.


Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”


Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)

 

Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.

 

Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 

 

place”) 

 

Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”

 

 

 

“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”

 

Larry

 

Encouraged or Discouraged? 

 

 

Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 

 

When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 

 

As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 lbs...how could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 

 

“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 

 

I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 

 

Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 

 

So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

Life Can Just Mess Me Up - Accept the “Givens”...

I have had the same business coach for the past 23 years. Life long learning never gets dull and sometimes is a bit stretching.

 

On my last weeks connection, the discussion was about “Givens” in life (this is a given/that’s a given) - and so I am learning another life lesson from my real estate coach (that has nothing to do with real estate, but has

everything to do with the way I handle “me”).

 

 

Given #1) All things change. There is a beginning and there is an end.

-embrace change - don’t fear it - learn to let go

 

Given #2) Things don’t always go according to plan.

-my expectations will not always be met - don’t get bent out of shape

-you will not be able to figure out every “what if” in advance

 

Given #3) Things are not always fair.

-accept that you will win some / and lose some

 

Given #4) Pain is a part of life - we are not in control.

-many times we short change our self and our life -

because we want to avoid any possible pain (versus gain)

 

Given #5) People are not loving and loyal - all the time.

-we will hurt and we will heal  

-just remember - you are not loyal and loving all the time either

 

Given #6) Everything in life is in divine order.

-life is unpredictable - accept/learn/grow

 

Ok - there is my homework from my coach! And I will confess, I need to embrace and accept each one of these “givens” because sometimes for me - changes, expectations, fairness, pain, people, and accepting the

unpredictable...just mess me up.

 

How about you?

 

Larry