The power to’s life changing




Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.

Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”

Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)


Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.


Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 




Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”




“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”




Encouraged or Discouraged? 



Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 


When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 


As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 


“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 


I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 


Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 


So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

Sorting Sticky Pop Cans...

It had been a busy month for Marlene and I, working long hours, marketing homes, and helping buyers find their next home.  On top of that, we were dealing with fall clean up at home and

getting everything winterized for the cold months ahead.


It was around 8pm and I was on my way home for supper after finishing up negotiations with an offer on one of my clients’ listings, when the fuel light in my truck caught my attention. I pulled into the Chevron station and started to “fill ‘er up” when I saw this lady, probably late 20’s, on a bicycle, rooting around in the garbage cans next to the gas pump I was using. What was she

looking for? The answer was in her hand – pop cans.


I then remembered I hadn’t made it to the recycling depot that day. (Oh how I hate that job of sorting all those sticky pop cans and bottles, but in our home it's a “BLUE” job so I get that pleasure.) I asked her if she needed more cans.  The answer was, “YES!” as she started to tell me her story – and her need.


I opened the tail gate of the truck, and pulled out a big black garbage bag full of treasures for her. You should have seen her face – it was beaming – so excited! She was so grateful and was starting to thank me, when I pulled out a second bag – just as FULL as the first one! As she started to gush out her thankfulness, I reached into the back of the truck and gave her the third and last bag – it was like Christmas had come early!


She gave me a huge smile as she started to lug the bags to a safe hiding place since she would need to make a number of bike trips to take them all to her home.


As I drove off in the truck, I realized that my dreaded blue job of sorting sticky pop cans and bottles turned into a moment of joy as I was able to make someone’s day just a bit better,
which in turn created a feel good moment for me.


Your friends in the business,

Larry & Marlene


PS - Your next “feel good” opportunity may be disguised

as a sticky pop can, so keep your eyes and ears open!