The power to’s life changing




Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.

Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”

Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)


Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.


Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 




Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”




“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”




Encouraged or Discouraged? 



Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 


When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 


As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 


“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 


I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 


Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 


So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

What are You Tolerating?

Do you ever notice how things just build up in your life and start to make you cranky or just uncomfortable?  It’s those little, yet persistent, distractions we try to ignore around the house, office or cars.


Sometimes we don’t notice these distractions until they are removed, and then breathe a sigh of relief and wonder why we didn’t deal with it sooner.


That’s what is happening in our life.  Marlene and I like where we live, but there were just so many little and big   tolerations that just bugged us.  So we decided to work at removing them one at a time. I chose a couple of things that bugged me, and Marlene chose a few things she felt needed help.


It started with the outside of our home.  The landscaping eye sores.  So out came the chain saw, and I cut down 38 old cedar hedges (and had lots of fun with the stumps that were left).  It was a bit of work, but we both said we should have done that years earlier.


Then it was Marlene’s turn.  She felt that our 35 year old drafty aluminum windows needed help, as well as the     exterior of our home.  So while preparing for new windows, I removed all the old vinyl siding and sledge hammered off over 1,000 bricks for an exterior face life.


My turn—the drywall in the garage being 25 years old, had so many dings and issues (the stipple on the ceiling was falling off and was so nasty I didn’t want to park my truck in the garage anymore).  So new drywall and insulation was installed.  Marlene and I then painted it.  Wow!  We should have done that years ago!


Marlene’s turn—our original 35 year old heating system needed help, so it was upgraded with a high energy efficient furnace, heat pump and a new gas fireplace.  We thought wow...we should have done that years ago!


My turn—we took out a wall between the family room and dining room to give our home a more open feelings, and while we were at it, I removed all the old doors, moldings, baseboards and window trim.  Time for a new look.  Wow...we should have done that years ago!


For a final touch, I sanded all the beams down to a natural wood so we could stain them, and as we speak, Marlene and I have just finished painting the first coat of paint in the entire inside of the house (ceilings, walls and trim), and you know what...we should have done that years ago!


I actually feel a bit tired just describing all the work we did, yet it was well worth it.  So what are the tolerations in our life?  Try this exercise.  Sit in one room of your house, look around, and make a list of everything you see that is out of place, torn, cluttered, ugly etc., then eliminate one distraction at a time with no time pressure to stress you out.  Take a week or take a month, (or like Marlene and I did, take a year).


Then notice how you feel each time you correct whatever is bugging you.       A few cans of paint can go a long way!


Your friends in the business,

Larry & Marlene