The power to’s life changing




Recently I was at a quarterly meeting in San Diego to connect with my business coach Joe Stumpf at “By Referral Only”  Real Estate Marketing University.

Joe asked: “Imagine what life could look like—if you removed/delegated even 1 or 2 of your current irritations & tolerations”. “Imagine what life could look like if you focused more on the “amazing” & ”your happy place”. “If you put the work into these changes—the pay off will be for a life time”. So lets “Imagine together…”

Imagine a couple of your work irritations and tolerations gone. What are the things that could be removed or delegated? One of our clients recently imagined not having to cut the lawn, shovel the snow covered driveway, and clean up after a winter storm...ever again. So they bought a townhouse! (one of my tolerations is the accounting end of our business. Fortunate for me, Marlene enjoys numbers and she took that over—and with that time I am able to work on bettering our team’s plans, systems and campaigns—” “In my happy place”)


Health, fitness & energy - Imagine 1 or 2 of your irritations / tolerations gone. (For me (Larry) - my “Happy place” is following a morning and afternoon daily ritual. By not guarding daily rituals—my toleration is low energy) For a friend of ours—their “happy place” is to imagine a regular work-out routine with a work-out partner or trainer.


Imagine family & relationships - What to do some people tolerate in relationships? Manipulation. Being driven by guilt, other’s 

expectations or always saying “yes” - but for the wrong reasons. (Marlene and I guard our hearts - when it comes to manipulation - we want our home to be our kids’, grandkids’ & friends favourite place to come to - This is our “happy 




Joe asked us to “imagine our finances, our wisdom, growth & mental capacity and our spiritual life”. What would happen if we removed or delegated just 1 or 2 of our irritations and tolerations and spent more time in the “amazing” & “our happy place”




“Put the work into these changes - and the pay off will be for a life time…”




Encouraged or Discouraged? 



Have you ever noticed that when you focus on what is not working in your life, that you feel discouraged? 


When things don’t quite work out the way that I had expected them to or hoped that they would, my negative self talk can easily wreck my peace of mind. I have also found that when I focus on what is working in my life I get this feeling of encouragement. 


As an example:: I (Larry) was told by my doctor this past Spring that I was pre-diabetic. “ARE YOU KIDDING? I’m 6 ‘1” and 155 could that be? I thought diabetes was a weight thing for larger or inactive people?!” 


“No, Larry,” my doctor went on to say, “you have been blessed with it geneti- cally. It’s in your DNA. Your Dad has it.”  So ok, here we go. No pasta, no potatoes, no bread and certainly no dessert.  Even minimal fruit. My inner self talk was screaming, “POOR ME!” and this continued at every dinner over the course of the next week or so. (You need  to know that I LOVE  bread, potatoes and spaghetti.) This was not good news to me...AT ALL. 


I have a few people in my life that encouraged me to go for it and make the change. I have made the decision to eat clean and exercise more and over  the past 6 months I can’t deny that I feel healthier and I’ve even gained some muscle and have lost an inch around my waist. Feeling fit and trim! 


Here is the nugget. We all hit bumps on the road, don’t we? We can have blue days (or really bad hair days), but encouragement can help bring us out of these valleys and dips. We just don’t have to live there. 


So...who are your ‘go to’ people who continuously speak encouragement into your life? Be an encourager and you will be encouraged right back. Try it out for yourself. The gift of encouragement.  We all have it. 

What Kind of Christmas Will You Have?

I woke up this morning, Dec 3 2013 – the wind was blowing and it was minus  3 degrees outside. I noticed a wisp of snow on the grass and my thoughts  went to “I wonder what kind of Christmas we are going to have?”


Just after seeing the rush of Black Friday the past weekend, my mind stopped on the idea of gifts – the perfect gift – and how meaningful will it really be?


In the book THE 5 LANGUAGES OF LOVE, many times the perfect meaningful gift is not what you can find in a store.


My love language is “time”.  The best gift Jared, Tianna & Marlene can give me is doing something together.  Some of my favorites are snowboarding, camping, waterskiing, biking, motorcycling, a nice “get away” or just sitting and talking in the hot tub.


So this Christmas season, if you are looking for the perfect gift, here are 5 ideas.  Everyone has one love language that they value above anything else – some have more than one.


Quality Time: spending time with special people through activities & conversations

Acts of Service: doing things for the person.  Are they overjoyed when you wash their car, the windows or make dinner, arrange a getaway, put the kids to bed?

Physical Touch: does your kid like wrestling or love hugs? Or how about your spouse – a hug, holding hands, getting a kiss before you leave for work and when you get home?

Words of Encouragement / affirmation: “I am so proud of you!”  “You are an awesome cook!”  “You look great in that outfit!”

Receiving gifts: some feel lack of gifts = lack of love (it's a symbol of love) big gifts, small gifts, and even just the anticipation of gifts is all good


Intentionally make this Christmas and New Year the best one yet with the perfect gifts, words & hugs, and remembering  the real meaning of Christmas


Merry Christmas!

Larry & Marlene